30 Lessons for Loving

Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage (2015.12)


关于本书 About the book

Readers of Karl Pillemer’s first book cherished the sage advice and great stories shared by extraordinary older Americans. Now, Pillemer returns with lessons on the most talked-about parts of that book: love, relationships, and marriage. Drawing on interviews with seven hundred long-married elders, 30 Lessons for Loving delivers timeless wisdom from a wide range of voices on everything from choosing “the one” to dealing with in-laws, money, children, and, yes, sex.

Whether readers are searching for the right partner or working to keep the spark alive, 30 Lessons for Loving illuminates the path to lifelong, fulfilling relationships.

本书金句 Key insights

● One indicator is especially crucial. It’s called the “in-love” feeling – and you should never marry someone if you don’t have it.

● But having the “in-love” feeling isn’t enough to commit. You also need to listen to your rational mind.This means getting to know your partner to determine if you share the same goals and core values.

● For example, plenty of long-time couples said that the idea that partners in love “just know” what the other one wants is a total myth. People just don’t see events the same way!

● For this reason, older couples say to always put your marriage first, even if you have kids.

● Gifts for your loved one don’t have to be tangible. Compliments work just as well!