Come as You Are

The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life (2015.3)


关于本书 About the book

An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.

本书金句 Key insights

● So remember, all sizes and colors of vagina are normal as long as they don’t cause pain. And the same thing goes for the clitoris.

● But every person’s sexual brakes and accelerator have different sensitivities, which means everyone has a different sexual personality.

● When people are in a context that feels safe, relaxed and sexy, even getting whipped can be erotic.

● That means trying to have sex when you’re stressed is a terrible idea – you won’t be able to enjoy it until you complete the stress cycle.

● In fact, the genital response in women simply indicates that some stimulus is sexually relevant, and not necessarily appealing.