The Narcissist You Know

Defending Yourself Against Extreme Narcissists in an All-About-Me Age (2015.9)


关于本书 About the book

With more than thirty years of experience studying personality disorders and treating extreme narcissists, Dr. Joseph Burgo has developed a useful guidebook to help you identify, understand, and manage narcissistic personalities. Relying on detailed profiles, vignettes from the author’s practice, and celebrity biographies, The Narcissist You Know offers easy-to-understand tools and solutions you can use to defuse hostile situations and survive assaults on your self-esteem should you ever find yourself in an extreme narcissist’s orbit.

Don’t let narcissism destroy your relationships. Get the tools you need to understand, work with, and live with the narcissist you know.

本书金句 Key insights

● While they may not commit as many crimes, Extreme Narcissists are terrified of being seen as inferior to others, and use vicious and elaborate tactics to maintain an image of superiority.

● One particular kind of deep shame lies at the center of Extreme Narcissism: core shame.

● All Extreme Narcissists separate the world into winners and losers.

● They worship you, pretend to listen to you deeply, make you feel desired and important, but only so you do the same. And when you fall in love with them, they control you.

● They can state their opinions so aggressively that you end up questioning your reality. The only way you can defend yourself is to strengthen your self-esteem.